Sibling Backed After 'Guilting' Family About Sleeping Arrangements During Trip: 'Unbelievably Selfish'

A family member has been backed online for "guilting" their siblings about the "ridiculous" sleeping arrangements they proposed for an upcoming two-night stay at their parents' home.

The original poster (OP), Reddit user Training-Ticket-3286, explained over the weekend that their two siblings both insist that they can't share rooms with their own kids when their parents host the family next month at their five-bedroom property.

Full House

One sibling, according to the OP's post, wants three rooms—one for them, one for their five-year-old and one for their three-year-old.

The other said they need two—one of which is for their nine-month-old, since he's, "Transitioned to his own room at home."

As for the OP's parents? Well, this plan would apparently result in them giving up their own room and sleeping on the sofa to accommodate.

To the OP, that would be, "Really unnecessary."

"One of the little ones will be in a crib in a room with an unused double bed," the OP told Redditors in their post on Feb. 9.

"I told [my siblings that] this is ridiculous, and somebody should share a room with their child as my poor parents in their 70s shouldn't be sleeping on the sofa.

"They think I don't understand, but I'm being an a****** by guilting them [and] I'm not staying there so I shouldn't have an opinion."

The OP said they will be staying at a nearby hotel with their child and husband on this trip since their little one doesn't sleep well.

The OP asked if they were in the wrong. The answer among Redditors—to an essentially unanimous degree—was no.

In its first 48 hours or so on the platform, the OP's post racked up 5,500 upvotes and nearly 300 comments. Largely, those replies came from users who staunchly defended the OP.

One such user wrote in the what's now the post's top-rated comment: "How can't the five and three-year-olds not sleep in the same room to begin with and why don't the parents sleep with the 9-month-old...?

"Whatever... You're right, it's absolutely ridiculous, and you're just looking out for your parents."

The OP wrote back: "Apparently because they might disturb each other."

A fellow critic summed up the mood in the thread: "Your siblings sound unbelievably selfish, good grief."

When it comes to being a good house guest, there are plenty of pieces of etiquette in general that experts advise following. Among those that Reader's Digest lists, for example, include going with the flow of the home and coaching children in advance.

A point that travel expert Samantha Brown stresses on her website, though, seems to more specifically align with what users in the OP's thread have voiced as it relates to the siblings: "It's better to be flexible than demanding."

Take another reassuring user, who chimed in: "Never in my wildest dreams would I demand my mom sleep on a couch, [laugh out loud]. I'd give her my bed and sleep on the floor if she needed it.

"These siblings are grade-A jerks."

Meanwhile, an individual thought, "They've got it backwards—you aren't staying there out of consideration for your parents. The siblings should take note. They are behaving horribly.

"Shame that your parents aren't calling them out on it."

In a response to that user, the OP detailed how their parents don't want to, "Rock the boat", or get in the way of seeing their kids or grandkids, which only happens, "Once or twice a year."

'Stay out of it'

The OP, on the other hand, was clearly happy to step in on their behalf, and based on a follow-up edit to their post, all the supportive feedback helped ensure that they didn't feel bad about doing so.

"It's clear to me I'm not being [ridiculous] by suggesting room shares and I'm [not wrong], I'm going to just enjoy my hotel and sleep soundly and sit back and stay out of it."

Newsweek has contacted Training-Ticket-3286 for comment via Reddit.

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